Sunday, August 1, 2010

Oops!

In the next couple days this blog is going private-er :)

I was informed this morning by a family member that much of my family finds me pretty controversial and opinionated!

I was unaware of this fact, and quite embarrassed actually!

If you have found yourself "removed" from this blog or from facebook PLEASE don't feel offended! I did not do it out of anger or spite. I did it because I someone told me I've been offending people. I'm so sorry if you are among them! I don't want to cause contention or hurt in any way! I love you all and I'm so grateful to be in such an awesome family. I do it because I don't want to continue to offend anyone.

LOVE YOU ALL!

13 comments:

Lilian said...

I'm sorry so see that this step has been taken. Everybody has opinons that may or may not be agreed with, but it doesn't mean that your family doesn't love you. If we all agreed all the time we'd be a boring bunch. And we already know we are not a boring bunch! We are a loving supportive family. This makes me sad.

I have already noticed that I'm one that has been "defreinded" (if that's a word) so I assume I will soon not be able to read this blog. So I'll take this opportunity to tell you I love you.

Lilian said...

Need to clarify that "we are a loving supportive family. This makes me sad." Doesn't mean that I think it's sad we are loving and supportive, but it's sad that you are choosing to make contact with you more difficult since you do live a long way away.

Melissa said...

I guess I should clarify *all* of my family has been "unfriended" :) The anonymous source who informed me of the offense did not pinpoint any family members who felt the same way they did, they only expressed that several members of the family was feeling that way. I just felt like it was probably a good thing just to not be "friends" on facebook with any family members :) I love you too Aunt Lilian! You are not one I'm taking off the blog :)

krutoypotsan said...

If they've been removed, how are they able to read your apology? The world is a mystery.

Melissa said...

LOL J-

They haven't been removed yet

Marivic said...

Hi, Melissa---just got back from the Bay Area with Granma and Grampa and came home to this post. I feel sad that you feel compelled to do this, but I understand where you are coming from and respect your decision. I think it's easy to misunderstand the written word when you cannot see the facial expressions and body language that come along with it. That's one of the danger and downside of internet interactions.One can take offense or get hurt by something not meant to offend or hurt, when taken out of context, or when one doesn't know the person saying the offending post as well as they think they do. As a very sassy and opinionated person I myself have "offended" family before without knowing it, because they misunderstood what I wrote or have a different opinion. The family ties that bind and gag, right? :-) But despite all the land mines associated with extended family relationships, I've always felt loved by family and I've always loved them. As big your extended family is, there's bound to be diversity, and love transcends or should transcend diversity in our opinion, in beliefs, personality etc. Just know we love you, and Adam and Hannah. And we hope we can continue to get updates in one way or another on Hannah as well as you and Adam.

Melissa said...

Oh I definitely still feel loved and love everyone! No hard feelings! I'm still a part of the best family in the world, just don't want to offend anyone!

Melissa said...

I guess I should clarify again :) people may or may not have been offended but people consider me to be controversial and opinionated but not everyone may have been offended :) either way I feel more comfortable knowing that I can stay on the good side of my family by keeping my personal life and opinions separate from my family.

Stephanie said...

I still get to see it right?

Georgia said...

Melissa,

I was recently called into my boss's office and reprimanded for a blog post I had written about my frustration with my job. I must have turned as white as a sheet because I nearly fell out of the chair I had been occupying. #1, I didn't even know that anyone at work knew that I blogged and #2, who would tell me that I couldn't write about my frustration with my job. I didn't even mention the name of the company or anyone who worked there. I merely vented my anxiety over all the changes that had occurred over the past few months and how hard everything had become for me.

She went on to tell me that I COULD NOT blog negative things about my work. I staggered out of her office and luckily got to leave shortly afterwards. When I got home, I read the blog post and thought that it could not be construed as anything offensive, but I removed it. Since then, I've gone to one day a week there and I'm a lot happier. For the last couple of weeks I've wondered about going private or putting some kind of 'tracker' on my blog. I felt so betrayed by my blog putting me in such an awkward situation. I haven't done anything different yet so please let me know how things are for you now.

You have never been overly opinionated, at least not in anyway that could be thought of as offensive. One of the many things I love about you is your willingness to share your feelings and thoughts. I hope I will always be able to read those thoughts and feelings from you. Just keep on blogging, girl!

Georgia said...
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Melissa said...

Georgia-- That is completly insane. It really does make you feel violated when something like that happens. I think that you are one of the classiest people I know and so it surprises me that you've ever been in trouble in your life! I love reading your blog though so if you decide to go private I want to be a reader.

Georgia said...

Thank you for your kind compliments. I hope all is well with you and that you will keep on blogging (when you get back from vacation).

I'm sorry I somehow placed my comment on your comment board twice. I don't know how I managed that...