Monday, June 13, 2016

{May 2016}

As much as our lives slowed down with the birth of Jonathan we still managed to pack a lot into the month of May.

Most of the month was spent just being a family, just adjusting to the new life we have in our home. I counted things like cleaning and laundry a success. Jonathan is a sweet, good baby, but demands to be held much of the time. This is fine with me. I'm happy to hold my sweet baby as much as he wants. I  think the thing for me that is most difficult with having four kids is balancing everyone's needs for attention. Jonathan is obviously needy by nature, and also personality. Paige is also very thirsty for attention. Hannah and Sam are very independent, but Sam also needs a lot of help physically, and of course Even though she is independent Hannah needs mommy time.

The girls had their Let's Play Music recital. It was Paige's first and Hannah's last. Both girls did a fantastic job, but I was especially grateful for Hannah who composed her own song and performed it flawlessly. I've been so grateful to the program for teaching such fantastic music skills!

Sam has become increasingly frustrating and I can tell he's approaching the terrible twos. Though he's still the same loving boy he's always been, he's also become aggressive and short tempered. We discovered much of this has to do with his two year old molars. For a while we thought he either was suffering from a behavioral disorder or possessed by a demon. There was no in between. Though he's doing his best to try our patience, we've LOVED watching the brotherly bond forming between Sam and Jonathan. Sam adores his brother, and I'm grateful for the attachment.

Adam took three weeks off for paternity leave, and it was marvelous, but he also went on a scout camp out and to Astrocamp during that time. It was pretty stressful to manage all the children by myself, but we got through it. Adam of course had a fantastic time, as he always does. He was the lead chaperone, and has basically taken over getting the whole program going.

One of the best things we did in May was go on a family campout at Exploration Park. It was a BLAST! We roasted marshmallows, watched UP, and got to use our new and giant tent! The kids did really well sleeping in a tent together.

Saturday, April 30, 2016

{April 2016}

April was such a special month for our family, for obvious reasons. We welcomed the newest member of our family, Jonathan Weldon Turney, on April 13th. It was a whirlwind of a birth, and we were all so grateful and relieved the time was finally right to meet our little Jono.

The anticipation for Jonathan was electric. Hannah and Paige asked daily when he was about to arrive. His birth was a whirlwind, as he was born minutes after we got to the hospital. It was a short labor and quick birth!

We had quite a few visitors over the course of the first weeks. Grandma and Grandpa, Nana, Allie, Hanley, Nolan, Rosalie, Hunter, Cade Mastaler, Lindsey Patten and Megan Long, and several local friends.

Adding a new member to the family isn't always easy on everyone, but the kids have been very patient with Jonathan and with Mommy. Luckily, we've had so much help and support that a lot of the burden was lightened, and its been a smooth transition. We've even managed a few outings to the park, the library, and Daddy even took the girls to a baseball game. There is nothing like a support system, and we are all very grateful.

{Jonathan's Birth Story}

The night of Wednesday, April 13th started like every other night for the past ten days. Around 8:00 I started experiencing contractions. I'd had false labor every night since April 3rd, so I didn’t think much of it. The day before I’d had a checkup with Doctor Brill who told me I was dialated to a “loose four to a five” and 70% effaced. He stripped my membranes, asked me if I wanted to move my induction up (which I declined) and sent me on my way, saying that unless I went into labor naturally, Jonathan would be born on Friday the 15th following an induction.

I didn't want to get my hopes up once the labor started, after all the false starts, but the contractions were around three minutes apart and I sensed a subtle change in strength, though they weren't painful at all. Adam was at scouts, and came home around 8:45. Mom and I were watching TV and around 9:00 I decided I should probably go to bed. I went upstairs to go to sleep, but I thought that I might as well take one more walk around the block to encourage labor—just in case. The contractions still weren’t painful, but I could tell something was happening. At one point during my walk I actually started to jog to see if I could get my water to break. Thankfully, it did not. I went back inside where Adam was lounging on the bed and I told him this might be it for real, that if by 10:00-10:30 the contractions were still there we could go to the hospital. My thinking was, if I go to the hospital they won't turn me away, they'll just give me Pitocin or break my water, since I was so progressed at my appointment the day before. Adam was nervous. We had a plan to induce, and that was more comfortable for him to deal with. Every time I’d have a contraction he’d jokingly say, “Stop doing that! You are making me nervous.” I told him to try to sleep, and he just laughed at that thought. Around 10 I could tell the strength of the contractions was intensifying. I took a shower. By 10:30 Adam asked what we were going to do and I told him I wasn't sure yet, but a minute later I had my first fairly painful contraction and I told him we could head to the hospital, I still wasn’t sure it wasn’t false labor and they wouldn't send me home. I took my time to make our bed, kiss our kids goodbye, and straighten up (my contractions still weren't that bad, but they were two minutes apart).

We drove to the hospital at 10:40 with steady contractions. Both of us were joking around, there was definitely some excitement in the air. We talked about how we were actually doing this, and that Jonathan’s birthday would be 4/14/16 as it was almost 11pm and we didn't think there was any way he'd be born before midnight. We pulled into the parking lot at 10:52 (I sent a text to my family as we were parking) and walked in through the ER because the main entrance was closed. A man asked if I needed a wheelchair and I declined, because I didn't want to seem overly dramatic. He called his congratulations to us as we walked down the hall. I had another fairly painful contraction in the elevator, and leaned on Adam for support.

While we were waiting for the nursing staff to buzz us in to the locked floor, I told Adam I needed to run to the bathroom, because I felt a slight leak and didn’t know if it was my water or my bladder. I went into the bathroom but couldn’t tell, so I just went to the bathroom anyway.

We were admitted into the labor and delivery wing, and a nurse approached us and asked if I was there for an induction and I said, "No, I'm in labor." She didn't look like she believed me and asked, has your water broken?" Without having time to say no, I suddenly I felt a huge gush of fluid. Adam and I looked down in shock as my water had broken all over the hall. I said, "Ummm yeah?" Adam said, "That has never happened to her before." Adam grabbed a “Wet Floor” sign and the nurse grabbed a towel for me, and said, “Well I’ll never look at anyone and ask if their water has broken again.”

We walked over to check in and I experienced my first "Oh crap" moment, because I felt him lower into my pelvis and my contractions immediately became unbearable. Adam wrote down my info while I tried to hold myself up against the counter and they told me to breathe, and directed me down the hall to room 2. At that point I was ready for my wheelchair, but they didn't offer one--haha.

I made it to the room somehow and kind of doubled over on the back of a chair. I felt a strange sensation, and my initial thought was that I needed to go to the bathroom, and I had my second “oh crap” moment when I realized it was Jonathan’s head causing the pressure and urge to push, which is what I told them. I had my eyes closed shut and they asked, "Is this your first baby, hon?" Adam said, "It’s her fourth." And FINALLY there was urgency in the room and they started saying, "She feels like she needs to push, this is baby number four." I didn't realize, but Adam told me after that there wasn't a bed in the room (they had the wrong kind of bed, not a delivery bed). Adam and the nurses helped me get undressed and put a gown on me. Somehow I walked over to the bed they’d just wheeled in to lay down. (I thought I was going to pass out/throw up and I still had my eyes closed).

I kept saying in my head "I can't do this. I have to do this." I was terrified. It was a horrible realization to know that there would be no epidural, and up until two minutes before I’d been counting on one. I got on the bed and told them "He's coming out of me." There were three nurses in the room. I don’t know their names, but one looked just like Emily Blunt (she’s the one who initially asked if my water had broken) a Hispanic nurse, and a tall, black man. Emily Blunt checked to see where the baby was and said "Yep, baby is at station 3.” I didn’t know what that meant until I looked it up later, and basically Jonathan was crowning. I don’t remember if they told me to push or not, or if I waited for any instructions. With the other three births, Adam was there supporting my leg, but I was surrounded by Emily Blunt and Tall Black nurse. I was pretty out of it, but Adam told me I was holding onto the bed with both hands, and then I was looking for Adam and I reached out for him to hold onto.

Nature kind of took over. I definitely remember the pressure and the “ring of fire” that people describe. I remember feeling and being aware of Jonathan’s head leaving my body and having an overwhelming sense of relief and joy. I also remember feeling the rest of him slip out of me and knowing that he was here.  I could hear Adam say something to the effect of "What the heck!" And it was all over. From the minute I got to the hospital to delivery was 14 minutes. About 7 minutes from the time my water broke. In total I experienced about 30 minutes of painful labor to delivery.  

They said he had a bit of deer in headlights syndrome, (me too) and he was pretty bruised. When he came out I remember seeing him kind of limp and I watched the nurse kind of handling his body, though I don’t quite remember what she was doing (I was in shock) I remember hearing him cry, and Hispanic nurse exchanged relieved looks with Emily Blunt. Someone cut the cord and took him over to the warmer to wipe him down and check him out. He received an Apgar score of 7, because he was slightly traumatized. Doctor Brill came in and delivered my placenta around 11:23. It was not painful but it was unpleasant. Then he checked my uterus and stitched me up, which WAS painful. Finally, after my placenta had been delivered and I was stitched up and hooked up to an IV for fluids and Pitocin to help my uterus contract back I got to hold and nurse Jonathan. His skin color was way off, and he seemed pretty bruised, but he was an expert at nursing from the beginning. He latched on like a pro and I could sense his immediate relief.  

Thursday, March 31, 2016

March 2016

We had a visit from Aunt Amanda this month, which was wonderful. She was a fantastic helper and companion. We took trips to the park, library, museum, Pump It Up, and even a bread making class. It was so nice to have someone to help chaperone the kids around while feeling so big and pregnant.

Adam, Hannah, and Paige were home for Spring Break as well. Adam was so helpful and productive. We did a few fun things as a family, such as go to the museum, park, and the library, but mostly we just hung around the house while Adam worked on painting the girls’ room and taking care of little things around the house. A highlight for the girls was when Adam took them on a Daddy/Daughter date to see Zootopia. They went out to eat, saw the movie, and then got Sonic shakes afterwards. Lucky girls! Because Adam was home, I got to go on a Mommy/Daughter date with each of my girls. Hannah chose In-N-Out for lunch, and then toy shopping at Target, while Paige picked playing at the park and then being my Easter helper and picking out things for the Easter baskets.

Hannah was off track for most of March, and we had a lot of fun with her. She continued to read the Magic Tree House series, and even took some AR quizzes at school, going in a few mornings with Adam. She also continued to work on Lexia and a new math game that Adam introduced her to.
Hannah was extremely helpful to me, taking on chores like the laundry, and even mopping! Even though I’m having a hard time this late in my pregnancy, I’m grateful that she’s so patient and loving with me. She and Paige struggle to get along all the time, and Hannah can be extremely bossy to Paige, but other than their little tiffs, Hannah was a huge help during track break, and I feel like she’s grown up a lot.

Paige was back to school, but still got to have fun with Aunt Amanda, and she participated in all our outings. She likes being back in school. She got to bring snacks, and we all got to join in her Family Day, where they taught us how to make banana cream pudding with Nilla Wafers. Everyone loved learning to “cook.” She had Nevada reading week at school, and she got to dress up every day for school, she thought that was pretty fun.

Paige even got to have an Easter egg hunt at school! She brought home lots of eggs with treasures and candy, and she was so good to share with her sister and brother. Paige is very anxious for her brother to get here, and can’t believe it might be any day now!

Sam is a Hot Wheels maniac! He is always carrying around cars in his little fists, and loves being able to find videos of Hot Wheels on Netflix or YouTube. He especially loved Daddy being home so he could do manly things. He’ll be so happy for his brother to arrive so he can always have a buddy! 

Easter was very nice this year. Because we've been focusing on the baby's arrival we didn't have much time to think about Easter. On Easter morning we watched several videos of the Savior, and talked about his atonement, death, and resurrection. We gave the kids Easter baskets and dyed eggs as a family. Poor Hannah was feeling pretty sick to her tummy, so she participated from afar. She'd have spurts of feeling well, and she even wanted to go to the Campbell's for dinner, but once we got there her tummy felt tender and she spent the majority of the time on the couch reading. That night she got a blessing and by the next morning she felt all better, and you could really see the relief of that on her cute face.