Monday, May 5, 2008

A Tribute to the Girlfriends in my life

I have been so blessed in my life with some great friendships. I never realized how much I desperately needed girlfriends. This post is to celebrate amazing friendships. Women who have touched my life and made a difference in my life. Thank you for sharing in my laughter and tears! I love you! Here are my greatest friends (in order of appearance).

It all started with Caitlin Jane Bardsley














Cait and I were born to be friends! Our moms were practically sisters growing up and they were so excited when they each had girls because they'd always had visions of us being together! We've had countless sleepover, imagined up the craziest schemes, and loved each other forever! I remember going to her house to either play or watch Peter Pan...we had an obsession. Graham crackers will always remind me of our sleep overs. We pretended we were the Google fairy... (that's right people, Cait and I INVENTED GOOGLE!!!) when we were little (about 6 or 7) we decided we were going to be the Google fairy at our sleep overs and preform random acts of kindness for our family members- like the time we made Swedish pancakes for my mom and instead of sugar we put in salt! When we were born our moms laid us next to each other and we started to giggle! WE WERE ONLY SIX WEEKS OLD!!! Oh wait...that was someone else. When we were teenagers we would set goals for ourselves and report back weekly to each other on our progress. She's always made me a better person. In 2005 she accepted an invitation from me to go to Russia and teach English together! I'm so grateful that she did, because we have five months of crazy Russian memories! Two months after we got back she served me well as my Maid of Honor for my wedding. I am so grateful for a life long friend and sister!

Megan Elizabeth Winegar- The classic Best Friend

The classic friendship...I moved across the street from Megan when I was just four years old. One of my first memories is someone (I think it was her brother Clark but I'm not sure) came over to our house and told me that I had a new friend to play with. I thought that was pretty cool. I don't actually remember meeting Megan, but I remember endless summers over at her house or mine. I remember jumping on her trampoline, watching ever Disney movie known to man 30 times then recreating the roles. I was always Aladdin and The Beast....We ripped up her moms yard in order to make Alligator traps or food, I can't recall at the moment. We invented the worlds best mosquito repellent which turned out to be the worlds biggest mosquito attracted (water and sugar). She liked my younger brother and sister for some reason so she had fun at my house too. I moved away in 4th grade. It was so traumatic for me because I knew I'd never find another Megan. We haven't kept in touch perfectly but I know how to get a hold of her and vice verse. My grandma and aunts still ask about Megan Wigeger ( a name my brother gave her). She is a great person and wonderful memories are attached to my childhood because of her.

Meghan Lee Allen- An answer to prayers

After I moved from Bountiful I had a hard time making friends. After a year and a half of sadness and praying, I finally found my new Megan...literally! Only this one spelled her name Meghan and we hit it off. She was in my ward, and taught me all about what it meant to start growing up. She taught me the kind of music I needed to listen to, clothes to wear, how to do my hair and make up. Luckily for both of us she had a big sister :) We had so much fun talking about boys, sharing a locker, going through all the joys of puberty. One time both of us were extremely depressed over what else: boys. We were on a camp out for our ward and we disappeared into the woods, knelt down in the woods and prayed individually that something would happen I guess. I can't remember if we prayed for peace or that the boys would like us back, probably the latter. Meghan was beautiful and talented and I was devastated when after three years her family moved away. We have definitely been bad at staying in contact, but I still love her to death. Meghan now has a beautiful little family and is chasing her dreams.


Jessica Anna Worden- You'd wish you were us.


Of all my three previous mentioned girlfriends, Jessica was the one I was never jealous of. I never put her on a pedestal or anything like that. I felt like we were pretty much the same. Jessica and I met in seventh grade Spanish class. Each year we became closer and closer until the end of our 9th grade year when we became pretty close. Jessica and I could talk for hours, laugh for hours, be dumb for hours. We'd pick up Chinese food and sour patch kids and could watch anything dumb and laugh about it. I really needed Jessica for a long time and we were lucky to have each other. Unfortunately, our lives have taken different paths. We are very different people and it becomes difficult to maintain a friendship at emotional distances. I often think of her and wonder about her. I hope she is doing well. I miss her a lot and I will always love that girl! One night we went to Burger King and after stuffing our faces we taped our garbage to various spots on the car and would see if people would honk at us to remove it! She is awesome and I wish her the very best in life.


Rosalie Carmella Mastaler: We are married to each other

I met Rosalie briefly before boarding a plane in New York bound for Russia. When we got to Prague and I spotted a ring on her left finger I got excited! She was engaged too!!! We'd both gotten engaged shortly before going to Russia and our sweethearts Adam and Michael were committed to wait the long cold five months. Rosalie and I hit it off pretty quick. We were always laughing and acquired inside jokes pretty quick (Rosal, CONNECTICUT, Deep Impact, Blue, ETC) because we were stuck in a foreign country. Of course with two girls who are engaged there are bound to be problems. It was a little difficult to both be engaged together because that is supposed to be an individual time. We laughed like friends and fought like sisters. By the time I came home, we didn't talk for about a month. We weren't angry or anything ( I think :) but our lives had taken over and we had weddings to plan on August 5th and 12th. A couple weeks after we got married we started to call each other. It became more and more frequent until finally we talk about 3-5 times a week, complaining about our husbands, laughing at ourselves and life, and just helping each other figure out this whole growing up thing. I LOVE Rosal and have so much fun with her. I am so grateful she is in my life and that we can be 'married together.'


Mindy Cannon- The other answer to prayer

When I moved to Las Vegas with my new husband he was all that I had. I was alone and desperate and in need of someone to talk to. I saw a few young couples in church, but never really talked or got to know them. There was the occasional 'we should hang out' conversation which never materialized until one day in October 2006 I got a phone call. Mindy Cannon and Kelly Stapleton were going out to the Olive Garden for lunch and wanted to know if I wanted to come. I threw on my clothes as quickly as possible and waited for Mindy to pick me up. That was the beginning of a beautiful friendship. Mindy is the other half of my brain. The fun half. I truly admire her. She puts up with a lot, and doesn't complain to people (ps I am not people so she's allowed to vent to me). Last August she told me she wanted to come over and talk "Oh my gosh are you pregnant," I said...sure thing, she was. She now has the most beautiful boy in the world (who is betrothed to my unborn daughter) and is a wonderful mother. We were truly born to be friends. We have the most intense conversations about important things such as: what we will do if our husbands die while sleeping next to us in bed (in case you are curious I will freak out and Mindy won't really notice but snuggle up to his cold body because Vegas summer nights are brutal). I have never laughed so much as when I am with her because she says the most hilarious things. I LOVE Mindy and she is probably the reason I will stay in Las Vegas forever.


Danielle Graciolette-The Rebel
I met Danielle in Institute Fall 2007. She was also in my music class. For some reason, every time we are together we end up falling out of our chairs or crying from laughing a little two hard. Danielle and I will graduate together in Fall 09 from the teaching program. We are always in our own little world scheming to get her to marry Addison so we are related or making fun of our teachers, or making fun of each other, but mostly her. My favorite Danielle moment was when I was working at Wells Fargo and a car pulls up and send a deposit through the drive up. The car beeped me and an unfamiliar voice asked me to hurry up and deposit it because they had to go to the bathroom. I looked at the deposit slip and it said Kristin Smith...so I rolled my eyes at Kristin Smith and processed her transaction, then went onto the next one and sure enough on the deposit slip it said "Danielle Graciolette" I almost died from laughter! Kristin is Danielles mom and they decided to come visit me, boy they sure had me going! Danielle is awesome though and I'm really glad she's hanging in there with me.

Of course there are others. My life has been constantly blessed by the lives of other women. Some of them include Bree Johnson who stuck with me through high school and played with me in college, Stephanie Burt who also didn't disappear from my life after high school. Alicia Fritter, who talked and laughed me through some tough times. Logan Benhard who taught me I had a wild side, and so many others...Thank you for your friendship!

Growing Up

I saw this and started laughing...what funny twists life throws at us! I was talking to one of my best girl friends Rosalie a couple months ago. We were talking about the price of gas and milk, we talked of important things such as laundry and cleaning and why our husbands are the way they are...we also talked about Russia and how it has been TWO YEARS since we were there together. I mused at the fact that two years ago, we were both planning our weddings that would be held in August 2006 one week apart from each other. We planned the dresses, the romantic honeymoon, the beautiful flowers and fancy receptions. Never once did we talk about the toilet scrubbing and laundry and everything included in 'Marital Bliss.' How quickly perspectives change.

I will say that you won't find two people who love their husbands more than Rosalie and I. Sometimes it's just good to unwind. It is so nice to have someone in such a similar position as me, still newly married, no kids, going to school and working. I there is a lot of chit chat that goes on between drives to work and school with us!

Saturday, May 3, 2008

It's been Three Years!

In May 2005, one accidental phone call changed our life forever. Every couple believes that they have the best story (as they should) but I must respectfully disagree :) because nothing can beat the pure fate our story clearly exudes.
Summer semester was just beginning at BYU-I. I was able to go to my first few days of classes, but had to skip out on Thursday...as my cousin Jeremy was marrying his beautiful wife Emily on 05-05-05 which fell on the day of my Biology Lab. I asked my old roommate Catherine Queen to save me a spot in her lab so that I wouldn't have to be alone. It was a beautiful wedding, a fun weekend with my parents, and then I was back to school.



Tuesday morning I went to my Lab class and sure enough, there was no room in the inn. Cathrine had failed to save me a seat and I was forced into an all boy lab with Ben Decker and Adam Turney. Perhaps due to my flirtatious nature, it took us the entire lab to get anything done. We went out to Wendy's after and the three of us kinda hit it off as friends. We decided to meet Thursday to discuss our group lab project. Thursday came and went and was unproductive. We all ended up laughing too much and coming up with nothing. My phone rang and I looked at the unfamiliar number and answered. It was Adam sitting across the room thinking he was so sneaky and funny (roll eyes here).

The following Saturday I received a call from this same number which was now programed as Adam. Confused I picked up the phone.

Melissa: Hello?

Adam: Hey, this is Adam

Melissa: Hi Adam, whats up?

Adam: Oh a bunch of my friends are going to have a bonfire and I was wondering if you wanted to come with me.

Melissa: (not wanting to go, having just gotten out of the shower and having a missionary in New York thinks quickly for an excuse) Umm hold on, I have to ask my roommates because I think they were planning on doing something.
Adam: Ok
Melissa: (Holds the phone down, thinks a minute...why not) Sure when will you be here?

Adam: about 7:00

So I hung up the phone and scrambled to get ready. I had just gotten out of the shower and was planning on a relaxing evening at home. 7:00 came and went and soon it was 7:30, I was beginning to get annoyed, I didn't know what to think... the phone rang...

Melissa: Hi

Adam: Hi...this is Adam Turney

Melissa: yeah...

Adam: Who is THIS?

Melissa: Melissa.......Marsden......your lab partn-

Adam: OOOOHHhhhhhh oh ok. Ok. I'll be right there.

At this point, Adam leaves the apartment of the girl he THOUGHT he called and comes over to my apartment. Embarrassed, we didn't even address the 800 pound Gorilla in the room and just went on our date.

Were it not for the slip of a finger, one accidental phone call would never have happened and we would not be together....I can't believe it has been four years!

It's been a while...

Spring is beautiful! By now I expected to be bitterly roasting in the Vegas heat but the Sun God has been kind this year and is still allowing me to have peace of mind, hopefully until the end of the semester!

Things are looking up for the Turneys! It has been a grueling semester but the time has come to leave it behind and move onward another 18 credits richer for Melissa and 9 for Adam! With two semesters behind us we are beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel, especially with the way 2008 is flying by! We are both in school for the summer. I'm still going to take 18 credits, but it will be a little easier since 14 of those are online! Adam is looking forward to moving on from 3rd grade into 4th next year and will be working hard this summer in his Masters program. He hopes to start working on his PHD in the Fall of 2009...will we ever be through this!?!

We are excited to go to Utah in two weeks for Sean's graduation! I can't believe my baby brother is graduating!!! He'll be heading up to BYU-I this fall and then off on his mission!

Work has been difficult. I feel like I'm in a rut and after a year and a half I've done everything I can do at my job. I plan on leaving Wells Fargo October 3rd . I've interviewed for the Lobby Manager position so it would be nice to switch things up for the last five months! After that, I will substitute full time until I get my teaching credentials.

Anyway...pretty boring stuff, nothing that I haven't blabbed about before :)

ENJOY SPRING!